To redshirt or Not?

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Even though Gobby is only three and Drew is about to turn one, I’m already contemplating them starting school. There a quite a few reasons why I feel that they should be redshirted.

1- Age. I would much rather them be a young 6 (or 7) than a young 4 (or 5). In one instance they are bringing up the back while in the other they are leading the pack. Plus, it makes more sense for them to graduate a little older (18/19) than at the age of 17. They would have to wait an entire year and a half before they could vote, be considered an adult.

2- Maturity. Boys tend to mature at a slower rate, and have a higher chance at being held back. Which would still be what I’m doing but there wouldn’t be a social stigma associated with it, “I started school at age 6 (or 7)” is a lot easier and prouder to say than, “I got held back in kindergarten (1st, 2nd, or 3rd) because I wasn’t physically, mentally, or socially ready.” I would know, I was held back in 1st grade because I was labeled as socially uncooperative (in reality, I just wanted to do my work on my own). With waiting to start formal schooling it gives my boys the opportunity to enjoy more of their childhood.

3- Emotional readiness. Even though my children are young, and I won’t know for sure but a way school officials show emotional readiness is by gauging how well the child handles being separated from parents for long periods of time, can manage own behavior (with the ability to be independent and self confident, has good manners, accepting others and their differences) as well as many other signs. All I can say is that Gobby has most of the emotional readiness signs looked for in a kindergartener, but I know that he would not be able to handle the curriculum. People tell me he will change, but then I have to defer back to #2- I want him to experience a real childhood.

4- Boredom. Some parents feel like kids being bored is a bad thing. I don’t. Also, the term boredom is not properly being used by today’s standards. Boredom does not mean the electronics are all being taken up and I don’t have one, or there is not a get together going on; boredom means there is positively nothing to do, you are locked in a 10’x10’x10′ white, padded room, and no window or door in a straight jacket. There are so many things for kids to do-go outside and be scientists, go to a museum and be a historian, go in the kitchen and be both a scientist/mathematician, read, or just think (a concept called reflection). When Gobby and Drew start school and are breezing through all the work, the teacher can give them something to challenge them, and give them a chance to entertain themselves in learning more.

These are just four reasons as to why we are going to redshirt our kids, what are your reasons for redshirting, or not redshirting? I would love to read your responses. Have a wonderful day! See you next time.

Updates from underground

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After a turbulent week I am exhausted. Three days of going non-stop from class, to study, to home, and sleep, then Ryan leaving Wednesday for a job interview Thursday, yeah gotta love the single-parent days. On top of trying to find a job, and then daycare!

I have no idea how I’m going to do the “single parent” life again, with two this time. Putting single parent in quotation marks because I won’t be divorced or anything, just living apart until I graduate in June. Looks like Ryan got this job that he wanted in Nevada.

Explaining to him that I don’t think I can live like that again, he just reassured me that I am a strong Jakiewife, capable of doing anything I set my mind on. Plus, the boys will be in daycare so not to worry, it is only temporary-they will do fine. My heart sank like the Titanic. Having my children be raised by the daycare people was not exactly how I wanted my kids to grow up.

So many things are going through my mind now. When Ryan leaves how am I going to drive since 1) I don’t have a drivers license, 2) he would have the car, and 3) we can’t afford another vehicle, even a cheap vehicle? If we somehow got a cheap-steer vehicle how can we be sure it won’t break down in the middle of the road someplace or be out of service for days on end when I need to be In the classroom? Hm……riddle me this. Another question is how are we to do daycare for five full days when they only have an opening for two full days a week for G? I can’t exactly leave a child there and forget another while I’m teaching.

I really hope I get Calistoga for my full-time student teaching placement-not too far away.

It is getting late and my homework is already getting cold.

If any of you have a suggestion on how to survive the next couple of months besides a prayer ( a prayer would be greatly appreciated) I am open to listening. Donating a car, or free babysitting until eternity (June), or even straight money would all be appreciated.

From Nothing to Below Ground

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Today was the first day of being fired. Yes, after working solidly for 2 1/2 years, I have been fired, let go, employment terminated. If you are shocked, don’t worry, so am I. There have been tears, laughs, and an emergency family budgeting meeting.

Officially, my employment ended yesterday, and after the fact I gave my husband the last $2 in my pocket to go buy me a Cookies n’ creme candy bar and a snapple, to help me wallow in my sorrows. It wasn’t enough and we had to dig into our laundry money to pay for these last things. I know the money could have been put to better use, I’m very irrational when upset. Finally, I decided that instead of spending money I would go running…50 minutes later and 4 miles of relief, I felt better.

Of course, I’m a little upset and worried about survival, but with that $1000 emergency fund in place by Dave Ramsey, we have possibly two months of worth of money to live on. That is two months, or less, for one of us to find a job. Good thing Ryan has a job interview in NV next Thursday. I will start looking Sunday morning.

Looking at my last pay stub I worked over 1,000 hours and made about $10,000 (from January-September). Last year (from January-December) I worked more hours for the same pay. I have a strong feeling that played a part in me being fired but I cannot prove it. I don’t blame the company because if they can hire someone to work for them for less money, because it is all about the bottom line, why not?

Instead of thinking this is the end of the world I am going to move forward and enjoy the time I have to sleep “normal” hours, not having to wake up at 11:30 every night to go work an eight hour shift and stay up the whole day. I will instead focus on graduating. I have less than a year to finish, June 2015. I will finish strong and overcome this obstacle because I am a fighter.

A New History

It’s been two weeks since my baby became three years old. Awww!

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Isn’t he just precious? I feel like he is one of my biggest accomplishments in life. I would do anything for him. Every time I look upon his face my heart becomes over joyed with love and admiration for how smart, amazing, and vivacious he is for life. I could not imagine not seeing hi grow up into the man he will be one day, walking across that graduation stage, getting married and having children of his own.

When I was his exact age (three years, two weeks old) my mom had a car accident. Her car ended up top down in the the irrigation canal half a mile outside of the Naval Air Base in our home town. As the base was in the middle of nowhere NV she was there for a couple hours before someone noticed her little red car in the water. The water was so cold her body went into a hypothermic state, and started shutting down slowly. It took paramedics 45 minutes to get to the water, and get her outside of the car and do CPR, they worked on her a long time before she sputtered up water and took a breath.

While the paramedics were working on her police and base firefighters were searching the water for her three kids because they saw that there were car seats in the back and were afraid we were with her. Gratefully, my siblings and I were safely with our dad at home. As soon as we got the call though that something had happened we went to the scene. I saw my mom look like the pale blue-white of a person, and them pushing on her chest. This is my earliest memory. It was quite traumatic especially since I wanted to go a tell them to stop hurting her. As they loaded her onto the gurney and took her away everyone was crying and trying to hold us.

After that she was never the same again. She was down so long without oxygen that she has permanent brain damage. She remembers everything about her life up until the point of her accident-graduating, joining the Navy, getting married and having three children, but nothing past her accident. Growing up she would ask for her children all the time (showing that she loved us a great deal) but it was heartbreaking to tell her over and over again that I was her child, and be denied, or her ask me who I was.

Now that I’m over 21 years old and have a child that is the same age as I was when something traumatic happen, I am afraid of the past repeating. I saw how hard it was on my dad having to be a single parent with a disabled spouse. Along with growing up with a disabled parent and the toll it took on me to explain it to explain to the kids in my class what happen and that she isn’t like their moms. The really hard times are actually good times in my life-graduation, wedding, birth of my children, etc. because I know that she won’t remember.

Looking at my son, I am afraid of never seeing and being apart of those wonderful moments. I hug him and tell him I love him everyday because I truly do.

Please, hug a kiss your kids every single day, go out of your way to tell them that you love them, because in an instant your ability could be taken away.

Drew’s Baby Blanket

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8/164 hours

8/164 hours

Such a beauty!

Such a beauty!

First off I have to inform everyone that when my oldest son was born I made him a baby blanket from some fleece from Walmart. It was super cheap and easy. At the time I had no desire to make him something elaborate. In the future I will rectify that mistake and make him a better blanket.

So because I had made Gobby a baby blanket I felt that it would only be fair to make the same same for Drew. Being that I work eight hour shifts in the middle of the night that was the most opportune time to work on this blanket. After 12 shifts (2 months), 5 large balls of worsted weight yarn (black and blue colored), and ~$30 investment, I have finished this wonderful blanket.

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8/8 hours

Any time a new project is starting it is hard to get I to the groove of what is going to happen next. Right when I was finically starting to get the hang of knitting and doing this project my shift ended. Instead of feeling dread for my next shift out of fear of boredom I was feeling elated with anticipation in how much I would accomplish!

8/16 hours

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i only worked half a shift on this one because there were quite a few emergencies going on and I felt that they were more important than the blanket I was working on-you know because it was my job.

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6/34 hours

This one was shorter than all the others because I ran out of yarn 3/4 of the way through a shift and had to wait to get more yarn.

8/42 hours

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My knitting needles were too short to allow the blanket to lie flat so there is a slight curve.

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At this point in time I figured out that I had been doing all my knit and purl stitches backwards, instead of frogging I made a note a just fixed my stitches the next round.

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Finished! Design!

Finished! Design!

This is what the actual design is supposed to look like. Beautiful!

 

after working on this project for so long, I decided to make something for myself. If I am going to invest so much of my time, energy, and money into a project I would like to take the time to make something for myself. My next project is a cardigan. Wish me luck!

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Bible Teacher Relationships

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“My job as a teacher is to be supportive of each and everyone of my students faith walks, even if it is outside my personal relationship boundaries with God, and knowing that my relationship with God has helped me understand who He is and how we (God and I) want me to live in relation to cultivating the students relationships with Him”~Bible Class Mission Statement

This is the sort of mission statement that Bible teachers are hoping to accomplish on a daily basis. The mission statement may be written out, or it may be ingrained in the teachers heart but somewhere there is a mission statement moving them to continue teaching. During the course of Spring Quarter 2014, the one aspect of teaching Bible that has been continuously brought up is the role of the teacher, and why Bible is taught. Bible class is taught on a relationship basis, that makes a circle in all directions: the teachers relationship with God, the teachers relationship to the students, the teachers relationship with parents, the teachers relationship with the pastor, the teachers relationship to their family, the teachers relationship with the school board, and so on. Each relationship will be dissected and shown as to how important Bible class is to the fulfillment of The Bible Class Mission Statement.

The Bible teachers relationship with God is paramount to the success of Bible class. When the teacher has an intentional relationship with God, it requires daily prayer for each and every one of the students and their needs . These needs are addressed, when the teacher has a communication link between them and God. For example, when a student has a religious question or is having a difficult time in their walk of faith, the teacher has the interceding power to help mend those broken boundaries or answer those questions. God gives each and every person the power to work with the baggage that every child goes into class with, baggage that comes with them even before starting school. When a teacher has the power to help relieve some of that baggage the relationship the student builds with God is that much easier because there is a link when the teacher takes up the burden from the student and casts it upon Jesus, just like the verse says: “Come to me who are weary and heavy laden, and I will give you rest” Matthew 11:28 and “Cast your burden upon The Lord and he will sustain you” Psalm 55:22. The Bible teacher is to present God’s character upon everyone that they are in contact with because they are to bring people closer to God and His glorious kingdom, specifically each and every student in the classroom and that means cultivating the relationship.

More often than not the most direct relationship that is to be cultivated is the relationship between the student and the Bible teacher because the school environment makes the difference in the relationship for Christ. No matter what a teacher does in the classroom that helps build the relationship. What matters most is how the teacher makes the student feel and showed genuine interest. When the students feel the belief or never ending faith emulating from the teacher it is transferred to the student. A key component to help the teacher succeed in bringing students closer to Jesus is being comfortable being uncomfortable:
being uncomfortable not having all the answers to the students’ questions, being uncomfortable outside of personal religious boundaries, uncomfortable with praying from a distance when needed, being uncomfortable with subjective curriculum. Having a curriculum that is experience based is difficult to “grade” because there is no one way to experience God, and unless it is theirs (something they have personally seen, felt, heard, touched, etc.) they would not be will to die for the belief/ownership of God. Students need the support of being able to apply Matthew 7:7-8 “Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, and he who seeks finds, and to him who knocks it will be opened”

A relationship that starts before stepping into the classroom is between the teacher and the parents of the student. This relationship is to be a bridge building one in which open communication is the best so that there are no room for misunderstandings. Misunderstandings occur more often because parents are of the traditional mindset of Bible class (memorize texts, do worksheets, read the Bible with very little room for experience) or they are of differing religious values and are confused on what is being taught to their child/do not want a fundamental belief to be presented to their child (State of the dead is one such belief parents have an issue with). With a relationship with God as a guide to speaking with parents it is easier to build a relationship with parents. Parents that are of the traditional mindset would need to be explained to that there is little to no room for experience in the traditional way and that if they want the teacher to continue to build on the religious foundation that they so diligently worked on before entering the school the teacher needs to allow for the student to understand, experience and communicate God to themselves and others in such a way that is exponential and never ending. While parents that are of a non-religious/other religion than the one being taught in the school would need to have the belief explained and where it stands in the Seventh-Day Adventist belief and the Bible as a way to bridge the problem. As a way to help the parent they might be invited to the classroom to share what their belief is with the classroom to show that different religions have different beliefs.

Another important relationship that needs to be addressed is between the teacher and the pastor(s) of the local church. Pastors are important and need to know that the school cares for their input/support. The reason why the relationship between the teacher and the pastor is important for the success of the Bible Class Mission Statement. Without the pastor the school would stand on its own. The pastor and teacher need to be the bridge between the church and the school so that they stand as one- united front working hand in hand for each others success. The pastor needs to know that his strengths would be put to good use inside the classroom so that he can relate to the students in the classroom as well as in the church setting. Giving the pastor the opportunity to be in the classroom and teach the students a Bible lesson or another topic that he is good at (hiking, or swimming) is allowing the students to learn from another person. Having the pastor on the school campus regularly helps the pastor know and understand what the church’s money goes for in the school- the majority of the money goes to sponsor children to have a religious education.

The relationship between the teacher and the school board is a mandatory association in which the teacher is the facilitator of the needs and wants of the school board in a tight rope fashion. The school board is to help solidify the vision of the Church school, making sure that the money for the school is put to the best possible use in the monthly, and yearly budget, while keeping and education in the forefront of its goal. One way to help build the relationship between the teacher and the school board is to allow the members to have a walk-through of the school and Bible curriculum. Whenever there is contention between the teacher and school board it is on the basis of curriculum. The teacher is to find a balance between what the school needs, and what the school board wants to implement in the school system, which they deem as necessary for their students in the school. There will come a time in which the teacher and the school board need to present a united front to the community on what they want for the benefits of the students religious experience. There will be a force that will divide the traditional way of learning about God and the experience based way of being with God, standing firm in the promises of God will help make sure that the students are supported in their walk of faith.

A relationship that is also a great way to help in the Bible class is having events in the church. A way for the congregation to see exactly where their money is going is to have the students showcase what they learn about God. This is a relationship between the students and the community, this church community is to be mutually supportive. When the students see that they are supported in their walk of faith in God, it helps them want to learn more about God and that they are not alone in their walk. When the church community is supported with religious showings, and presentations there is the fulfillment that the money they are giving is not going to waste; the money they earned is going to help build lives on the foundation of God inside the classroom. This relationship also presents the congregation the desire to put their children in the church school, supporting the school as well. The relationship between the students and the church is hand in hand to the success.

The connection with the community for public matters is a way to help feed the school. One way to help build a school and gain support is through that of the community, parents want their child to have a Christian upbringing, want to have higher standards for their child than that of the public schools. When parents see that the teacher is God fearing and wants what best for their child, and is not in the classroom to get a paycheck there is more desire to trust and put their child in the church school. With an open school that is welcoming to all peoples there will be more students within the church walls to help further the desire to have each student build a personal walk with God that is forever expanding.

The Bible curriculum and other disciplines of learning are to bond together throughout the day for the students, so that there is a continuous refreshment of God in their lives. Whenever there is a subject relate it back to Jesus, to help build that relationship. There is always a partnership between what we are teaching and the amazing things from above, build the foundation so that when the students get older and they are bombarded with worldly questions, or attacks of faith there is a solid foundation that they can stand upon and will not be shaken. With their walk of faith it is alright to have religious struggle but it is not alright to have the rug thrown out from under them.

One relationship that is often forgotten is the relationship between the teacher and that of their own family. The teacher needs to help build the relationship of their own children from infant to adult by teaching grace, agape love, and that Jesus loves them as fact. As a parent the teacher is going to always be showing Jesus’ love is unconditional and that God will show up when he is welcomed. A way to keep a relationship between the teacher and their child is to have an ongoing Jesus Relationship Dialogue in the house, have their child go to the Church school, and to attend church regularly as a family. As recorded in Valuegenesis in the Seventh-Day Adventist retention is 40% when religion is only taught in the home, 60% if religion is taught in both the home and in church, 80-90% if it is taught in the home, church, and school as a way of life. Proverbs 22:6 states, “Train up a child in the way he should go, Even when he is old he will not depart from it.” Having an open dialogue about Jesus in the house leaves an opening for God to come in and help further His love.

The aspect of success in teaching Bible class is to build up relationships-all relationships, both foreign and domestic. The one relationship that is of the up most to the success of Bible class is that one with God. He will never leave, nor forsake and as a teacher there is continuous need to spiritual intervening in the lives of the students, and giving of burdens to Jesus. Each and every relationship is interconnected with God as their center. Confidence in knowing that the teacher has a personal relationship with God helps the students be unafraid to delve deeper into a relationship with Him, in their own right. As teachers some of the ways to help build a relationship with Jesus is presenting His love, character, and grace.

“We want students to be able to understand, experience, and communicate God to themselves and to others in such a way that is exponential and never ending.”

Unapologetic about Apologetics: Hugh Ross

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hidden treasures I live in an area that happens to be overwhelmingly religious and most of the events that I go to happen to be of a religious nature. So I have been thinking of starting a new little “series” if you would about my impressions of reading various materials that I end up getting handed or that are suggested to me. This will be the inaugural address of said series I’m going to be calling Unapologetic about Apologetics. Unapologetic about Apologetics will attempt to look at dissecting an apologetical argument and seeing if it holds any water. This series should not be in anyway viewed as being an attack on any individual, way of life, etc., but as a critical examination of the material itself. The arguments should be able to hold up based on their own merits, which is what this series will be testing.

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Assertive

I’m sorry I haven’t kept up with my posting but I just haven’t had too much time. There seems to always be deadlines lurking around every corner waiting to jump at me and say, “Gottcha!!! You forgot all about me so now you pay the consequences!” Consequences being not becoming a teacher, or getting a zero on an assignment. But anyhow, this is my post.

This quarter I am taking an Assertive Behavior class. It is quite interesting, I am learning things about communication- how to tell another person what I am feeling and not push my own agenda and also accepting a no answer. Almost like tact. Is there a different in being assertive and having tact?

Finding a quandary is always an occurrence when learning new things. The current question is: When I don’t particularly care about a decision how do I communicate that to the other person? For example, Ryan asked me what I wanted to do with my in-laws yesterday. It didn’t matter what I chose because no matter what we did, they were coming, and we were going to be in close proximity either outside or inside. I guess I could not communicate that message very effectively.

A sign of an aggressive person is someone that controls the conversation during the dinner meal. I think that is quite interesting since if that happened, even growing up, if I did not talk there would not be conversation at all. It would be non-existent besides, “Could you pass the butter, please?” and “Thank-you” are just polite in any conversation.

So far my efforts to be assertive are going much better than I expected. All I had to do was learn how to think “1………2………3………..” Then speak after someone is finished. and use more feeling words. Those sound like girlish words but being forward, and honest are some traits that I am very prone to possessing in a negative way. Honesty is a blind curse.

 

 

Focus

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Until something changes in our circumstances (Ryan gets this job, or I get a job) looks like all Ryan and I can do is be grateful for the blessings, and be prepared for the worse, and continue to move forward.

Part of the continue to move forward mantra is for me to focus on my getting my education certificate. Looking down the road it is going to be a long bumpy road, full of tears and endless nights, until that graduation ceremony happens. Thinking about it brings tears to my eyes right now, with how long and hard the road has already been. We can prevail through though.

Right now all it looks like is a bunch of dates, a never ending to-do list, and a lot of time-management obstacles, along with the difficulty of financially affording all these tests to take. I feel exhausted just thinking about all of that mess.

When everything was starting to become clear, I felt a sense of peace that things were going to be alright. I know that not matter what happens it is going to show our characters on how we handle difficult situations. 

When people ask me how I manage raising my two boys, going school, and working all at the same time. I always say, “One day at a time, working with what God gives me.” God has given me a wonderful support system (my husband, my in-laws, my dad, and all the generous people in the community, and the patient faculty/staff in both the school and in my work environment) that all help keep this family afloat one day at a time. 

To help myself I am now going to go cross a couple items off my never ending to-do list while I still have a couple hours at work to work on those things. The next big date for Ryan is January 25 (for his job interview) and the next big one for me is February 14 (for the final submission for my pre-session student teaching). Wish us luck! Thank-you!

Alone

Well…Ryan is off to Nevada to do some informational stuff (renew drivers license, get high school/college transcripts, etc.) for his job interview in about 10 days. Want to know what that means for Gobby, Rew and I?

No work, no school, no junk food!!!! All wonderful things to take advantage of while there is opportunity. I still have the boys all to myself and I get the opportunity to find out what Ryan goes through on a regular basis while I’m in classes all day having both boys. Let’s see how we do. So far it is interesting since Gobby wants to sit right in front of me while I’m typing and put his head right under my chin. I have gotten a few head to teeth incidents that have hurt like crazy but other than that so far so good.

Gobby, I think, is most excited about not having to sleep in his own bed tonight, he gets to stay with me and Rew the whole entire night!! Every morning he comes into our room and if he sees Ryan closest to the door he sleep on the floor, while if he sees me sleeping next to the door he climbs into bed with us.

Since Ryan is usually the one that is home with boys he has time to make dinner and since his cooking skills are limited in what he can cook, and his opposition to reading a recipe or making something with what we have (dump cooking) we eat a lot of junk food. So tonight I am making some non-junk food that I have been missing (garbanzo beans, bell peppers, brown rice, onion, and some cooked carrots)!

I hope that everything goes well with Ryan and his driving! Miss him like crazy when he is gone. But I keep telling myself he will be back by tomorrow afternoon.